While I was MIA on the blog for a while, I definitely had some fun this winter! As I previously said, I was ready to have some single mid-20’s fun, but my first prospect didn’t work out……
When I returned home from my date that Wednesday night, I (obviously) poured myself another glass of wine — we all know I needed it! And the tipsy swiping began. Bumble was fun when I was looking for a casual hook up. Because the women control the conversations, it was so fun to message guys first! I love being able to set the tone of a conversation and use silly intro lines. I matched with a messaged someone decent looking on Bumble, totally unsure what I was getting into. Minutes later, the conversation had taken a erotic turn.. and I wasn’t mad about it! I still cannot believe it happened, but it did and it was great. Unfortunately, this guy lived a bit away so I wrote him off and didn’t think twice about him. He, however, messaged me a few days later and I was definitely interested in seeing him in person. Over the next few months, we met up a few times for some fun. We had great chemistry and conversation each time we saw each other – at one point we considered turning our casual relationship into a real one.
Unfortunately, after a while, it wasn’t fun anymore. We were SnapChat friends and he felt the need to send unsolicited pictures of *himself* – repeatedly. Even after being asked multiple times to stop. I felt beyond disrespected. The relationship ended there after a heated conversation about respect.
Why do guys think it’s acceptable and appropriate to treat a woman this way? If that’s what you’re into and it’s mutual, great. But after I asked him to stop (twice) and I continued to receive more than 5 more pictures, that’s borderline harassment in my opinion. I’m all for casual relationships, but respect is key or it doesn’t work. This guy earned my respect and trust and then completely broke it because he thought so much of himself and so little of me. Funny thing is, as soon as I related his behavior to his younger sisters, he completely retreated. It felt like he saw me as a sex toy rather than an actual human being. Ladies, you deserve more!
So yet again, we’re onto the next one! As the summer began, I decided to start seriously dating again. I’m back on Bumble and Hinge on the hunt for a man!
XO, A 20-something single gal
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